A first lady who followed her own path more than precedent
WASHINGTON >> When Michelle Obama considered the daunting prospect of becoming first lady, she avoided turning to books by her predecessors for guidance.
Instead, she turned inward.
“I didn’t want to be influenced by how they defined the role,” Mrs. Obama once said. She instinctively knew she had to define the job “very uniquely and specifically to me and who I was.”
That meant doing it her way: shaping the role around her family, specifically her two young daughters, and not letting her new responsibilities consume her.
Throughout her eight years, Mrs. Obama has been a powerful, if somewhat enigmatic, force in her husband’s White House. She chose her moments in the often unforgiving spotlight with great care and resisted pressure to become more engaged in the mudslinging of partisan politics.
At times, she’s been more traditional than some expected — or wanted from this first lady. At other times, she’s been eager to update stuffy conventions associated with the office.
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As she navigated her way through, the woman who grew up on the South Side of Chicago discovered a talent for television and a comfort with Hollywood A-listers, haute couture and social media. And she used all of those elements to promote her causes — childhood obesity, support for military families, girls’ education — with at least some success.
When she leaves the White House next month just a few days after celebrating her 53rd birthday, Mrs. Obama will do so not just as a political figure, but as a luminary with international influence.
Friends say she charted that path largely on her own.
“What she did was she sort of listened to herself and allowed her own inner voice and strength and direction to lead her in the way that felt most authentic to her,” Oprah Winfrey told The Associated Press. “And I think watching somebody makes you want to do that for yourself.”
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Mrs. Obama grappled with the childhood obesity issue before becoming first lady; a doctor had warned her about her daughters’ weight.
At the White House, she decided to share her experience with the country and started by planting the first vegetable garden there in more than 60 years. That led the following year, in 2010, to the launch of her anti-childhood-obesity initiative, “Let’s Move.”
The first lady appealed to elected officials, food makers, sellers, restaurant chains and others to try to make healthy food more accessible. She lobbied lawmakers to add more fruit, vegetables and whole grains, and limit fat, sugar and sodium in the federal school lunch program.
That led to the first update to the program in decades, and for Mrs. Obama the process was akin to a crash course in Washington sausage-making. Mrs. Obama’s effort was not universally welcomed. Republicans in Congress wanted to reverse the rules. Others said Mrs. Obama was acting like the “food police.” Even the kids she wanted to help added to the backlash. Some students posted photos of lunches they found unappealing on Twitter with the hashtag #ThanksMichelleObama, or simply tossed the food into the trash.
Mrs. Obama had won. But she would never again try to work closely with Congress on an issue. She chose instead to use her platform to press industry to change its ways.
It’s too early to know how Mrs. Obama’s efforts may affect childhood obesity rates long term, but advocates believe she helped change the national dialogue around healthy eating. And although incoming Republican President Donald Trump, a proud patron of McDonald’s and Kentucky Fried Chicken, has yet to comment on school meal regulations, advocates worry about the fate of Mrs. Obama’s effort under a White House and Congress that will be controlled by the GOP.
Reflecting on her childhood obesity work, Mrs. Obama said some people initially wondered why she would bother with such a “softball issue” but “now, all those challenges and criticisms are off the table.” She told talk-show host Rachael Ray that “at least we’ve become very aware as a society that this is one of our most important health issues.”
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Mrs. Obama’s push to put the country on a health kick extended to exercise — and she made herself exhibit A.
To promote “Let’s Move,” the first lady often donned athletic wear and ran around with kids at sports clinics, some on the South Lawn. She twirled a hula hoop around her waist 142 times and kick-boxed in a video of the gym workout that helped tone the upper arms she showed off regularly, as in her official White House photo.
She did pushups with Ellen DeGeneres, raced in a potato sack against late-night TV’s Jimmy Fallon in the East Room and shimmied with a turnip in a brief video popular on social media — all to show that exercise can be fun.
“I’m pretty much willing to make a complete fool of myself to get our kids moving,” she once said.
Instead of going the fool’s route, Mrs. Obama turned herself into a fitness guru and a figure significantly more popular than her husband.
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First lady was never a position Mrs. Obama imagined for herself, given her modest upbringing, her distaste for politics and having never seen her skin color on a U.S. president and first lady.
Her early aversion to politics developed while watching her father navigate Chicago politics for his job with the city water department, and was reinforced by her husband’s pursuit of a political career. Both Obamas have said his political ambition had strained their marriage and family.
Once in the White House, Mrs. Obama vowed to protect her then 10- and 7-year-old daughters’ right to a normal childhood. She declared being “mom in chief” to Malia and Sasha as her priority, irking women who hoped the first lady might be less constrained by stereotypes.
She showed few signs of trying to push those boundaries.
Mrs. Obama was an enthusiastic White House hostess. She rarely spoke about issues that were outside of her portfolio. She crafted her public schedule around her daughters’ activities and limited her travel so she could spend time with them.
The Obamas’ parenting style — often described by both Obamas as warm, but strict — made them role models on that front, a point of pride, particularly in the African-American community.
“We have heard no Obama children drama,” said Ingrid Saunders Jones, national chairwoman of the National Council of Negro Women.
Mrs. Obama didn’t really begin to open up about the historic nature of her service as the first black woman to become first lady until the end of the presidency was in sight. She mostly addressed the subject in interviews when she was asked to reflect about it, and discussed how important it was for children to see a black president and first lady.
Longtime friend and White House adviser Valerie Jarrett said Mrs. Obama was often reluctant to talk about such matters earlier because she wanted her legacy to be more than just her place in history.
“Her goal is not what she is, but what she does,” Jarrett said.
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In the final weeks of the presidential race, Mrs. Obama set aside her distaste for politics to wage one last campaign, an ultimately futile attempt to help elect Democrat Hillary Clinton. She quickly became one of most passionate Democratic voices opposing Trump and calling him out for “bragging about sexually assaulting women” in comments caught on a 2005 video.
“I know it’s a campaign, but this isn’t about politics,” she said at a Clinton rally shown live on cable TV news, rare exposure for a first lady in a campaign. If Trump’s past words are “painful to us as grown women,” she asked, “what do you think this is doing to our children?”
It was yet another moment when Mrs. Obama again seemed to be following her path rather than precedent.
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this angry black woman is still bitter after all that was bestowed upon her. i hope she finds happiness. she should move to papahanaumokuakea and find a rock to join her a’ama partner
mele kalikimaka
hauoli maka hiki hou
Huh? She has been a model First Lady. I love her ardor and commitment to justice.
The “angry black woman” phrase says everything about the writer and nothing about Mrs. Obama.
Agreed, klastri.
deepdiver, why bring up the “color of skin” card? In my opinion, she has happiness in her life. If you can’t see that, oh well.
No class
There are racist imbeciles among us. It’s sad and pathetic.
Wow, who is the angry person? Deep diver dove too deep too many times.
Where is he diving?
Despite all the uniformed stupid juvenile things said about Michelle by the wrong wing knuckle draggers, she’s proven herself to be a graceful sincere First Lady. I’m proud how she carried herself throughout the Obamas two terms. Now we have to endure a plastic blowup doll who can barely speak “AMERICAN” for four years. Whatever the H that means.
all true
Juvenile? Resorting to name calling like wrong-wing knuckle draggers? And dragging a first lady elect who hasn’t done anything yet down to the level of a plastic blow-up doll with poor English skills? Now who’s the racist? The misogynist? The anti-immigrant? The grammar Nazi?
She was much like most First ladies. She put family first, and was graceful in support of her husband. A little too much exposure for me, but thats just my age group. Wish her and her family well. But, please stay out of politics, she’s too good for that.
She was fine and dandy in my book until she flapped her jaw on Oprah. Bad move too to campaign for the most untrustworthy candidate in our modern history
Fawning much? Yes, she broke barriers by assisting her husband split the country. She definitely added to the “nanny state” aspects of the federal government. Add to that, she is an activist, as is her husband. Activists don’t make for good presidents. They play identity politics and divide the country into “us” and “them.” I’m not saying either of our primary choices this time were good ones, just that the country is broken and Michelle and Barry played a large part in that.
“Divide the country”? Oh my goodness. You ain’t seen nothin’ yet pal, wait till Orange Man and his idiot administration get their mitts on this country. Of course the blowup doll will nod adoringly in the background as she learn’s her ABC’s.
Race has no barriers including showing some class and grace. When you have challenges in your life you learn to appreciate what you have as simple as they may be. When you are raised with wealth beyond normal imagination you take everything for granted. You surround yourself with others who are as extremely wealthy as you are and look at the less fortunate as leeches who are the scum of the earth. The Chump lied to his base and knew that they were so gullible that they would swallow whatever he would toss to them. It is now up to his base to keep him and his cronies in line.
Race has no barriers including showing some class and grace.When you have challenges in your life you learn to appreciate what you have as simple as they may be. When you are raised with wealth beyond normal imagination you take everything for granted. You surround yourself with others who are as extremely wealthy as you are and look at those less fortunate as of a lower class. The Chump lied to his base and knew that they were so gullible that they would swallow whatever he would toss to them. It is now up to that very base to keep him and his cronies in line.
Why
michelle malkin’s “culture of corruption” captures the essence of obama’s path to first lady.
hasn’t changed.
won’t change.
Really? You believe what Malkin says? Among other things she belives that the WW II internment of Japanese was a good thing. Or do you also agree with that?
You lost me as soon as you said “Michelle Malkin.” One of the ugliest people on the inside.
Every First Lady of our POTUS have been so unique and wonderful in their own way. What’s that saying, “behind every good man, is a good woman”?
Michelle Obama said at the BET award show in 2015 “Black girls rock!” How is that not racist?
Imagine if a white woman said, White girls rock, to a black audience, or to any audience?
I find it interesting how Michelle and Oprah have the same point of view about white people.
Oprah’s Idea on How To End Racism – All Old White People Are Gonna Have To Die”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qquZHXFM_o0