The heartbreak in Ukraine hits close to home: “Those are my people.”

Many Americans may think the war in Ukraine does not involve them. However, this way of thinking is very flawed. Although the conflict may seem far away, it’s still directly and personally affecting Americans — one of them being my dad, Gary Stapolsky.

My dad was born to a Ukrainian mother and Jewish father in Kharkiv, the second-largest city in Ukraine. The year was 1964, when the country was still under the Soviet Union.

He used to tell me stories of his days in Kharkiv, a place where the delicious flavor of the fruit had no comparison to those in the U.S. His stamp collection was spellbinding to my child self, with its unique shapes and prints. Mischievous adventures and simple joys like the fruits and stamps were what made his boyhood so rich.

Although my dad enjoyed his time in Ukraine, there were unbearable hardships caused by austerity. The communist Soviet Union limited daily essential resources and restricted contact with the outside world. Citizens were forced to rely on the black market and struggled to access foreign imports and news.

My father’s parents both longed to leave the Soviet Union. There were a mix of reasons, but the driving force to leave was seeing their relatives mistreated by the communist regime. The family finally decided to emigrate in the winter of 1973 and left their home behind, never planning to return.

“We never thought Ukraine would be an independent country at some point,” my father said. “I think that was never in our minds when we lived in the Soviet Union and even later when we lived in the United States.”

Even though the nation rightfully gained independence with the collapse of the Soviet Union in 1991, Russian President Vladimir Putin has always claimed that Ukraine belongs to Russia. But how can this be when Ukraine has always had its own distinct culture, language and history separate from Russia?

Ukraine’s independence has always been precarious, but the real threat occurred when Russia launched a large-scale military invasion on Feb. 24. After many attacks on civilian areas, Kharkiv is now in complete ruins. My dad’s dream of visiting his home country after almost 47 years is now nearly impossible.

“This kind of slaughter is difficult and sad to see what the Ukrainian people are going through,” he said.

We tend to view war academically, forgetting that real individuals are being affected. A dear friend of mine, age 13, now lives in daily fear that she’ll lose her life at any moment. The trauma that she and many other children will have to endure is painful.

I have never been to Ukraine, nor have I ever met my relatives there whose lives are at stake. I don’t even speak the language, but none of that really matters. There is no denying that my roots are Ukrainian and that those are my people. Seeing this tragedy feels like a part of me is being torn apart.

If America values unity, justice and democracy, then the U.S. needs to provide more military resources, as well as humanitarian aid, to the Ukrainian people. As citizens of the U.S., we must recognize the Ukrainian’s right to self-determination and donate to organizations that can directly help the cause. What Ukrainians need right now is the strength of humanity.

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Daria Stapolsky is a student at Moanalua High School, Class of 2024.

“Raise Your Hand,” a monthly column featuring Hawaii’s youth and their perspectives, appears in the Insight section on the first Sunday of each month. It is facilitated by the Center for Tomorrow’s Leaders.